Have you ever felt like you didn’t measure up?
Have you ever felt like an imposter?
Have you ever felt like others are smarter than you.
If you have feel this way…you are not alone.
This is what I call the “Everybodies got it figured out but me Syndrome”.
This common syndrome effects most business people and the reasons for this is as follows:
1) Our perception of others
Most people work hard to put their best foot forward. To look good to others. We go to great lengths to dress the right clothes, say the right things and generally hide all of their flaws. This way we can make a good impression on others so they will only see the best side of us. Because of this we have a positive perception of them.
2) Our perception of ourselves
When we see ourselves, we have more information that we use to base our perception upon. Not only do we see the good things that we show others, but we also see the bad things. We see all of the negative things including our bad habits, our insecurities and hang-ups.
In short we see our whole self, flaws and all.
On top of this we have tend to discount the things that we are good at. We discount our genius, we discount our talents, we discount our good habits. We do this because we have become so acustom to them that they are not seen as special anymore. We have become numb to their value.
So, because we only see the good side of others, and we see our whole self, good and bad we tend to think that others are better than us… that they have it figured out.
One of the keys to getting out of this negative doom loop that hurts our self-esteem is to realize that everyone else is flawed just like us. That they have doubts and insecurities just like us.
And they don’t have it all figured out…just like us.