It amazes me how much our ego plays in our day to day decisions.
One tip on leading people is to look for the win for them personally if they act the way we want them to act.
The reality is that your employees will only act the way you want to act while you are watching, if the only reason you give them for acting that way is, “Because I say so.”
However, if they see how it will make their life easier, reduce personal stress or make them more money, by acting the way you want them to, then their will be no need to police them. They will simply act that way because it will produce personal benefits for them.
Educate them on those benefits and they will be motivated to act that way, whether you are watching or not.
This is how you get them to do what you want to do, because they (and their ego) want to do it.