Since most couples spend countless hours preparing for their wedding, and not much time preparing for their marriage, and since most of the focus at the wedding is on the bride and not so much on the groom, I decided to create a handy guide that can help any guy become a Highly Effective husband.
My original title was “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Husbands,” but the more I kept working on it the more it took the form of a 12-step program. So I changed the title to “The 7+ Habits…”
What qualifies me to write a guide like this?
Well at the time of writing this I have been married for over 18 years to the same woman and she still likes me. (most days)
I have also spent over 12 years professionally studying relationships and how people interact with each other. And in my work as “The Sales Dating Guy”, I teach Sales Professionals how to build better relationships with their clients, using the analogy that Selling is like Dating and Customer Service is like a Marriage.
So, whether you are looking to improve your marriage or serve your customers better, enjoy this guide that I will share over the several posts, and remember the Habits as you enter the amazing journey of marriage.
Check out my next post where I will outline Habit #1.
Kleenex, we need Kleenex!
That was the scene at my niece Katie and her husband Chris’ wedding this past Saturday.
That is a scene that is played out at many weddings throughout the year.
When a member of the wedding party is telling the happy couple how much their love inspires them.
When a parent is telling their child how much they are proud of them.
When a father is welcoming his new son or daughter-in- law into the family.
The scene is one charged with emotions.
So what do you do when the tears well up inside and you find yourself grabbing for a tissue?
1. First off you need to realize that this is normal. Don’t be embarrassed by this release of emotions.
2. Take a step back and breathe. Taking this moment to collect yourself will help you regain the control you need to move on. Also a deep breath will help get more oxygen to your brain, which will in turn help you think more clearly.
3. Go back an pick up from where you left off. Remember that this heart-felt message that you are delivering is important and that your recipient (along with the audience) will appreciate it.
So, don’t be embarrassed, step back and collect yourself and continue and you will touch the heart and connect with your audience, whether that audience is a hundred or just that one person. You will both be glad you did.
Also, if you are nervous about public speaking like almost everyone on the planet. Try to approach your speech like you are just talking one-on-one with that person.