Yogi Berra once said, “If you don’t know where you’re going, you might not get there.”
The same is true in marriage. If you don’t have a clear picture of what you want to get out of your relationship, you may be disappointed by how it turns out.
Because all things are created twice.
First in the mind of the creator… then in real life.
And notice that I said create your vision …together. If you plan your life vision together, you’ll both tend to stay on the same page as you go.
So if you haven’t done this yet, here is my suggestion.
Grab your laptop or some paper, find a quiet place, sit down together and dream.
Imagine that you’re about to celebrate your 25th Wedding Anniversary and talk about all the wonderful things that have happened in your life over the past 25 years. Talk about them as if they have already happened.
Perhaps you can talk about the beautiful home you built.
Or how your wise investments have left you financially secure.
Or perhaps you can talk about how little Johnny or Joanie won the Stanley Cup.
My point is this: the best way to predict your future is to create it yourself.
So, remember Habit #1 and Create Your Vision… Together.
Also, if you stumbled onto this blog and you know of a anyone who is getting married or has been married in the past few years, why don’t you send them an email, including the link to this blog. You will both be glad that you did.
Check out my next blog entry as I share Habit #2.