To explain theis point I need to talk about another one of my great loves… hockey.
Then, with the game still in reach, their new star player (Steve Downie http://lightning.nhl.com/team/app?page=PlayerDetail&playerId=8471703&service=page) jumped one of our players (Mike MacLean http://www.hockeydb.com/ihdb/stats/pdisplay.php?pid=76851)from behind for what seemed like no reason at all, knocking him to the ground, and beat the tar out of him. To make matters worse, after being pulled off by the refs, he proceeded to kick his helmet against the boards, knock over a rack of hockey sticks, and toss a case of water bottles onto the ice. (Check out the whole thing on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQ4RkHbMeqk&feature=PlayList&p=ECEEA090F95A695E&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50) Not only did he embarass himself, but he left his team short-handed. Our team went on to win 5-0.
It has been said that selfishness is the root of all evil.
Well, Mr. Downie, received an 8-game suspension for his selfish act that night. And isn’t it interesting that while he was suspended his team started winning again.
In short, when players focus on themselves, they lose. But when they focus on the team, they win.
The same lesson applies in marriage. I know when I make major decisions focusing only on me, I get in trouble. But when I focus on the two of us, on WE, things work out better.
Because great teams are just that… teams.
So if you want to win remember Habit #3 and Think WE before Me.
Check back next time to learn what Habit #4 is.