There will be some days when you’ll come home after a hard day at work and your wife will want to talk to you about her day.
Now I know your natural instinct may be to crank up the TV, run to the bathroom, or fake and injury… anything to get out of having to hear her complain about her work, the kids… you.
But an effective husband learns to resist this urge.
Instead he sits down, shuts off the TV, and gives his wife his undivided attention.
When you listen to your wife, she will feel that what she says matters… that you care… and that she is your #1 priority. And when she feels this way, you will have made a major deposit into your relationship bank account.
But listening to her is only part of the Habit.
You see, after years of practicing this skill – and is a skill, just like riding a bike, driving a car, or putting the toilet seat down http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkVrtVP7AXU– I’ve discovered this following secret.
When your wife is telling you about a problem she may be having, she isn’t telling you because she wants you to fix it for her. Noooooo!!! All she wants is a sympathetic ear.
So if you jump in and try to fix it for her, as many guys would (because as guys most of us are genetically designed to fix things), you could (and often are) both end up frustrated.
My advice is this: If you want to fix something… fix the sink (or any other thing that you have been meaning to get around to), because if you jump in and offer her a solution when she just needs to talk, you could make matters worse.
So, if you give her your undivided attention, you will be utilizing Habit #6, Fix the Sink, Not your Spouse.
Check back next time to discover how to avoid one way that us guys tend to stress our wives out without even knowing it. That secret will be revealed in Habit #7.