Risk vs Reward

It felt like my heart was going to beat out of my chest as I grasped the magnitude of what I was about to do.

My knees shook so bad that it was actually a relief when I went down on one knee.

And my voice trembled and I barely got out the words of the most important speech of my life.

Fear is a very powerful emotion that can sometimes prevent us from being harmed. But it can also prevent us from achieving great things.

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“There are those who SEE an opportunity. And then there are those who SEIZE an opportunity.” – Joanie Warren

Thankfully, that night 25 years ago,  I was able to recognize that the reward of enjoying my life with the woman of my dreams was worth the risk of possibly being rejected. That risk-reward analysis allowed me to seized the opportunity to ask her to marry me.

And what did she say?

After a huge hug and many tears (of joy) she was finally able to get out the word, “YES”.

And 25 years later, I can happily report that that decision was definitely worth it!

So next time you have to make a key decision, do a Risk-Reward analysis and if you decide that it is worth the risk, push through the fear, seize that opportunity and enjoy the reward.

*This post is dedicated to my beautiful wife April, and to Patricia and Dave Heather who have been two of the best role models we could have who are also celebrating their 51st wedding anniversary today.*

Motivational Quote: Will vs. Imagination

“When the will comes in conflict with the imagination, the imagination invariably carries the day.” – Emile Coue

How Leaders Strengthen Relationships

It hit me straight between the eyes, and I was blurry-eyed to begin with.

One of my morning rituals is to read for a few minutes before I get ready to the day. I do this in order to jump-start my brain. One of the books that I am reading right now is titled: Leadership Promises for Every Day by John C. Maxwell. http://www.johnmaxwell.com/

It is a daily devotional on Leadership. Here is a brief section of today’s message:

A leader can’t connect with people only when he/she is communicating among groups; he/she must connect with individuals.

The stronger the relationship and connection between individuals, the more likely the follower will help the leader.

Successful leaders always initiate; they take the first step and make the effort to continue building relationships.

Connecting with people isn’t complicated, but it takes effort.

Your people are more willing to take action when you first move them with emotion. When you give first, your people will give in return. When you connect with individuals, you gain the attention of crowds. When you reach out to your people, they will reach back toward you.

Whether you have just taken over a leadership position or are well established, you must connect with your people if you are to succeed.

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Well said, just one more thought on this subject:

“Remember we do business people to people, not business to business.” – Richard Elmes

The Science of Giving Gifts

 The following tip is from my Guide titled: The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands.  When you read it think how this psychology may come into play when you are giving gifts to your customers.

The Science of Giving Gifts 

Giving your wife a gift is a great way to show your love, but if you are not careful it can blow up in your face.

Like the time when we were dating I gave my wife April a beautiful red lace rose, not knowing that when you took the plastic off, the head of the rose was really a little pair (and I mean little) of skimpy underwear.

That wouldn’t have been so bad, except that I gave it to her at her birthday party… at my parents’ house.

And that summer when she started talking to me again… (her birthday is in December), she suggested that I needed help.

 

And that is when I decided to study and learn the science behind effective gift giving.

A science that has been a mystery to husbands (and sales reps) for years… until now!

 

What I discovered were thes 4 elements of effective gift giving that I call the T.I.M.S. factor.

 

The 1st element it Timing:

A gift that is a surprise is more powerful that one she expects.

You still need to give her a gift on special occassions, like Christmas, her Birthday or your Anniversary, but you may find that she will be just as delighted if you bring her flowers after work on Friday.

But, don’t do it every Friday… because then she’ll expect it which will not only make it less powerful, but if you forget one week she will be disappointed. This is certainly not the emotion you want to generate.

 

The 2nd element is your Investment:

And by investment, I don’t just mean the money you spend but also the time and effort you take in thinking about, finding and picking out just the right gift for her.

The more time and effort you invest, the more powerful the gift will be.

Trust me, women know which gifts are bought on December 24th.

 

The 3rd element is your Motive:

My research shows that there are 4 different types of gifts.

The “Just because I love you (or was thinking about you)” gift, which is the most powerful.

The “Thank you” gift, which is the next most powerful.

The “Negotiation” gift, which is less powerful, because if you receive something in return it is not really a gift.

And the “Please don’t make me sleep on the couch again tonight, honey” or the “suck-up” gift, which is abviously the least powerful.

 

The 4th element of the T.I.M.S. model of effective gift giving is the Sensation that she feels when she gets your gift.

If your gift leaves her happy… you’re golden.

If you have to go out and buy her a “Please don’t make me sleep on the couch again tonight, honey” gift to make up for your original one… not so much.

So remember the Science of Gift Giving and think T.I.M.S. before buying her a gift.