“You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to leave the shore.” – Andre Gide
“You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.” – Sam Levenson
If your wedding was like most, the husbands in attendance will have approximately 300-400 years of marital experience.
300-400 years of wisdom.
300-400 years of making mistakes.
And if you are as smart as I think you are (because if you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this post), you’ll learn from these experienced veterans because they can provide not only advice, but also a list of all their mistakes. Actually, you will need to get the list of mistakes from their wives.
Anyway, armed with this knowledge, you can avoid making those some mistakes and be free to go out and make your own.
My point is this: Effective husbands seek out mentors.
They look for men they can trust, whose marriages they admire and they learn from them.
In short, don’t try to figure it all out for yourself. Use Habit #11 and Talk to the Old Man.
Check back next time when we cover the 12th and last (for now) Habit. The Habit that is the key to making your marriage work.
The key component when you are working with people, either in a leadership position, business or personal relationship is trust.
Distrust breads resistance.
Trust breads willingness.
Think of the best relationships you have and I would bet that they are solid because the level of trust between you is high.
Then think of those relationships that frustrate you. My bet would be that they are difficult, because the trust level is low to non-existant.
If you want people to work for you and not just do what they are told – work at building their trust in you.
If you want to increase your sales – work on building trusting relationships with your customers.
If you want your personal relationships to grow – work on building the trust between you and that person.
So this begs the question, how do you build trust between two people?
Visit my next post, to learn some tips that will help you do just that.
“You must learn from the mistakes of others, because you can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.” – Sam Levenson
The crowd groaned as the first baseman squeezed the ball for the final out.
The final out of the game.
The final out of the season.
No, my 8 year old son’s team didn’t win his Jr. Rookie ball championship, but they will take away much more than a participant’s trophy.
The reason: Great Coaching
This season I have had the pleasure of watching, listening and learning from my son’s excellent coaching staff. I want to thank Darren , Carlo and Glen for all of their contributions and volunteering their time this season.
However it was the performance by the Head Coach, Jim Deveau that really stood out for me.
Not only did he set the tone for the entire team, I believe his leadership skills and his character not only made it fun, but a valuable experience for the players and the parents.
So what is it that made Jim a great leader:
He stressed fundamentals: The amount of time that he and the coaching staff invested in teaching those kids how to play baseball was impressive. I loved the way he broke down each component of the game down to its most basic level. This helped teach the players how to hit and field the ball properly. And he kept stressing the fundamentals all the way through the season.
He emphasized fair play: From the first email that we received until the final out of the season Jim not only emphasized fair play, but he modeled it (Even when some of the other team’s coaches didn’t). He also did a great job keeping excited parents in check so they would not yell at the 12 yr. old umpires when they made the wrong call.
He made it fun: Jim’s humour and wit are legendary. I remember making a comment to one of the other parents during one Friday night that I should have brought my dinner then I could have dinner and a show. Not only did he entertain the parents, but he also made it a fun experience for the kids. From the humorous ways he would explain things to the kids, to the organizing of the cheers on the bench. Jim realized that not only will kids pay attention and learn more when they are having fun, but that going to games was an experience that they will remember for a long time.
Which brings me to my final point.
Jim was not only teaching these 7 and 8 year olds lessons that will help them on the ball diamond, but lessons that will help them become better people in the future.
Stephen Covey the author of the book the 7 Habit of Highly Effective People and First Things First once said that we all strive to do 4 key things in our life.
“We all strive to Live, Learn, Love and Leave a Legacy. “
As a leader, I would encourage you to follow Jim’s lead because I can speak for me and my family when I say that Jim Deveau’s legacy of great coaching left a positive impact on us.
Great job Jim!!!