The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands- Habit#8: Use “The Pause” …Wisely

Before I tell you what “The Pause” is, I need to let you know a little bit about my wife. She is a type-A person who is always on the move. In fact I believe she only has two speeds… high and off.

And though she’s very smart, she sometimes doesn’t realize just how smart she truly is. And that is one of the reasons why I use, “The Pause”.

Because sometimes she’ll be upstairs, when I’m downstairs and she’ll call down to me and ask, “Rich, do you know where _________ is?”

(Pause)

“Never mind… I found it.”

Trust me… practicing this Habit will not only save you a ton of energy, but she won’t miss out on the satisfaction of finding what she was looking for herself.

But the trick is to make sure you don’t wait too long, because if she has to ask again… you’re screwed.

So remember to use Habit #8 “The Pause”… Wisely.

(Note “The Pause” is used in a different way than the Power of the Pause, that I learned at Toastmasters http://www.toastmasters.org, which will be subject for another blog post)

Check back next time when we will talk about one of the most critical, but under utilized tools that guys can use to keep their relationships (and sex lives) running smoothly.

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Valuing the “Golden Moments” in our life

You could tell that she was fighting back the tears.

No, they were not tears of sadness.

No, they were not tears of shame.

But instead they were tears of joy and tears of relief.

Years of training, years of practice and years of competitions led to this moment.

This was her moment to shine.

This was the moment that Shawn Johnson, http://results.beijing2008.cn/WRM/ENG/BIO/Athlete/5/221035.shtml the 16 yr. old gymnast from the United States of America had dreamed about for years.

This was the moment when Shawn Johnson, the Olympic Gold Medalist in the (2008 Beijing Summer Olympics) Women’s Gymnastics Beam Event heard her national anthem being played because of her accomplishment. http://gymnastics.teamusa.org/news/article/5749

Can you imagine what it would be like, if that was you?

Can you imagine how proud you would be?

Proud of the effort, proud of the accomplishment and proud of the commitment that you put into having this experience. 

I can only imagine how much I would value the experience.

“We place value on things in the same proportion as it took to acquire it.” -Richard Elmes

And I am sure that Shawn will cherish that moment for the rest of her life.

This makes me think about whether I cherish the “Golden Moments” in my life.

The “Golden Moment” when I make the big sale, the “Golden Moment” when I make the big presentation or the “Golden Moment” where I can influence others in a leadership role.

Do you cherish those “Golden Moments” in your life?

Not only when we achieve success at work, but when we achieve a success with our spouse or kids.

I think this is a lesson that most people tend to fall short of. So next time you experience a “Golden Moment” remember all the hard work that it took to get to that point. And then be like Shawn Johnson and be proud of your accomplishment. Because you deserve it.