Motivational Quote: Inspiring

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“A good teacher can teach you the subject, but a great teacher can inspire and teach you lessons and skills that can be carried through your life.” – Matt Ward, VP Ward Heating Products

Motivational Quote: Power of Results

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“Nothing motivates like results.” – Dr. Robert Lewis, Creator of Men’s Fraternity

I see something in you…

Enjoy this Toastmasters International,  2014 World Champion of Public Speaking winning speech by Dananjaya Hettiarachchi.

How to be a Winner…guaranteed!

This weekend is the big championship weekend for many of the baseball teams in my home town.

So, all the hard work they put in during practices, all the skills and lessons they learned during the regular season all come down to the performance this weekend. And especially today, Championship day.

But I encourage all the competitors, coaches and fans to remember one more lesson.

That lesson is one that may be remembered more and have a bigger impact than most.

More than how to hit a curve ball, more than  how to turn a double play, and more than stealing a base.

This lesson is one that if it is not heeded, it can suck the fun out of and steal the joy out of the game.

The lesson is, that no matter what the final score ends up being is it vital to act with class.

WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS.

If a player on the other team makes a great play on a ball you hit. Don’t get mad. Instead tip your cap.

If, in your opinion an umpire misses a call, don’t run out screaming like a mad man. Instead ask questions respectfully and accept their decision.

And if the score is not in your favour at the end of the game, shake hands and wish the other team well in the future games.

WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS

WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS

LOSE with CLASS.

But just as important is to WIN with CLASS.

When you respect your teammates, your coaches, your opponents and the officials, you are winning with class.

When you refrain from trash talking and putting others down, you win with class.

And when you avoid running up the score or taking the extra base  late in a game where you have a huge lead, you are winning with class.

The key fact is this. A couple years down the road most people won’t remember the score of the game.
What they will remember is the friends they meet and the lessons they learn.

And if the lesson you demonstrate is to WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS, then regardless of the score of the game, you will be a winner…guaranteed!

 

This will be the toughest sale you will ever make!!!

 “The toughest sale you will ever make is to sell yourself on how good you really are.– Richard Elmes

Not believing in yourself, your skills and your talents will effect your career more than any other factor. And many people fall victim to the “Justa Syndrome,” where they feel that they are justa technician, justa clerk, justa manager etc. By discounting the value we bring to our organizations we are not only doing ourselves a disservice, but we are cheating our company as well.

So how can you raise our self-esteem and avoid this affliction?

1. Discover where you fit:

Every position makes a difference to the success of the organization. If it didn’t the position wouldn’t exist. Discovering who relies on you, whether it is your clients or other employees, will help you realize that what you do matters.

2. Determine what your Distinctive Values are: What are the distinctive skills, talents and attributes? What do you do better than other people? Find out what that those are so you can focus on your strengths rather than on your growth points. Enhancing your strengths and minimizing you weaknesses, will not only help you stand out, but it will also help you feel better about yourself.

3. Define your personal Values:

Defining what you believe and what you are willing to do or not do in order to get what you want and still be able to look yourself in the mirror and like who you see is a key factor to your self-esteem. Because if you cross that line and go against your values a small piece of yourself deep within your soul dies. And you can’t ever get that back. And unfortunately sometimes you may be asked to do something that violates your personal values and if you know what they are with crystal clarity, you can stand your ground and say, ‘no’. Because you know the repercussions of crossing that line, are far worse than the repercussions of saying no.

4. Practice continuous attitude maintenance

Just like the food we take into our body effects our physical health, what we take into our mind effects our mental health. Be careful to take in more positive messages than negative messages. One of biggest contributors to this negative ingestion is your own self-talk. The person you will listen to the most in your life is you. So be gentle with yourself and realize that we are all flawed in one way or another. You don’t have to be perfect. I know many people who have the perception that everyone else has it all figured out. This simply is not true. Keeping a record of your successes in a journal is another good way to give your esteem a much needed boost when you are down.

5. Build your Network

The key to networking success is not to ask what your network can do for you, instead ask what you can do for your network. Taking the attitude of helping others without the thought of what you will get in return will also separate you from the crowd, impress others and help you feel good in the process. The rewards of taking this approach far outweigh the I’ll scratch your back only if you scratch mine approach.

6. Discover your bosses Love Language:

Connecting is the key to effective communication. By discovering your bosses Love Language or preferred communication style, you will connect more often. The rewards will be fewer misunderstandings and a better relationship.

7. Discover the critical 20% of your job:

20 % of your efforts will drive 80% of your results. Discovering which 4 or 5 critical tasks are that 20%, and then delivering on those tasks will not only help you succeed in your job, but it will also get noticed by your peers and your superiors.

By using these tips you will not only be helping you sell yourself on how good you are, but you will be selling other on that fact as well.

When giving a Presentation, what is the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience?

In a recent LinkedIn post Ritzya Mitchell, The “Drama” queen at http://www.thedramacoach.com/index2.html asked:

When giving a Presentation, what is the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience?

Here is my response:

 

Hi Ritzya,

I believe the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience is focusing on you rather than the audience.

Focusing on what you are going to say, and how you are going to say it, and how you are going to look as a result of saying it, rather than what impact your message will have on your audience.

When I stopped worrying about me and started focusing on my audience, I found that I could relax more and then really connect with my audience.

The next biggest obstacle is not making enough meaningful eye contact with your audience members. And by meaningful eye contact, I am talking about looking at and talking directly to one audience member for a sentence or two and then moving on to another audience member. Not the quick side to side scan (that makes your head look like a typewriter) or the looking over people’s heads.

Look people in the eye and care about how your gift (message) is going to impact them and you will have no trouble connecting with your audience.

I hope this helps.

Making a difference,
Richard Elmes CSP
The Sales Dating Guy
www.RichardElmes.com

Enlisting your pit crew: The secret strategy that will help you get people to help you with your career

In a previous post I talked about the benefits of having people in your life that can help your career. I called them your pit crew. 

Today I will share with you some secrets on how to get people to help you.

1. Take Inventory: You have some people in your pit crew already. Make a list of the different people  that may be able to help you. Divide these people into three categories. Core friends, Inner circle and network.

  • Core Friends: These are your best friends. The people that you can be completely open and honest with and trust that they will still stick with you. They have seen your flaws and still like you anyway. You can tell them anything and not feel that it will go any further.  
  • Inner Circle: These are friends that you can moderately relax with. They usually know about a part of your life, but they may not know the whole story. They only know what you are willing to show them. You enjoy each others company.
  • Network: These are people that you know and they know you. You enjoy each other when you are together, but you only know one part of each others life. You may know them in a certain situation , such as work.

When you are looking for help, you want to look first at your core friends, then your Inner Circle and then your network. The reason you do it in this order is because the closer they are to you, the more you trust them, and trust that they want to help you.

2. Exploration: Ask, “Who has the skills and talents that would help me the most?”, “Who has done what I want to do before?” and “Who would benefit from helping me achieve my vision?” (What’s in it for them?)

3. Approach: Then approach the people that you believe can help you and ask how you can help them.

“The key to networking success is not to ask what your network can do for you, but instead ask what you can do for your network.” – Richard Elmes

If you add value to them in their journey, then they will in-turn want to help you in yours. This is called the law of reciprocity. I have personally used this approach many times in order to connect with some fantastic (and helpful) people.

So, now that you know my secret way of building my pitcrew, the question is what are you going to do with it? Are you going to say to yourself, “That was interesting” and then forget it or are you going to grab some paper and start with step 1, Taking an inventory.

After reading this send me an email at richard@richardelmes.com and let me know how this strategy has help you in your career.