“A good teacher can teach you the subject, but a great teacher can inspire and teach you lessons and skills that can be carried through your life.” – Matt Ward, VP Ward Heating Products
“Nothing motivates like results.” – Dr. Robert Lewis, Creator of Men’s Fraternity
Enjoy this Toastmasters International, 2014 World Champion of Public Speaking winning speech by Dananjaya Hettiarachchi.
This weekend is the big championship weekend for many of the baseball teams in my home town.
So, all the hard work they put in during practices, all the skills and lessons they learned during the regular season all come down to the performance this weekend. And especially today, Championship day.
But I encourage all the competitors, coaches and fans to remember one more lesson.
That lesson is one that may be remembered more and have a bigger impact than most.
More than how to hit a curve ball, more than how to turn a double play, and more than stealing a base.
This lesson is one that if it is not heeded, it can suck the fun out of and steal the joy out of the game.
The lesson is, that no matter what the final score ends up being is it vital to act with class.
WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS.
If a player on the other team makes a great play on a ball you hit. Don’t get mad. Instead tip your cap.
If, in your opinion an umpire misses a call, don’t run out screaming like a mad man. Instead ask questions respectfully and accept their decision.
And if the score is not in your favour at the end of the game, shake hands and wish the other team well in the future games.
LOSE with CLASS.
But just as important is to WIN with CLASS.
When you respect your teammates, your coaches, your opponents and the officials, you are winning with class.
When you refrain from trash talking and putting others down, you win with class.
And when you avoid running up the score or taking the extra base late in a game where you have a huge lead, you are winning with class.
The key fact is this. A couple years down the road most people won’t remember the score of the game.
What they will remember is the friends they meet and the lessons they learn.
And if the lesson you demonstrate is to WIN with CLASS, LOSE with CLASS, then regardless of the score of the game, you will be a winner…guaranteed!
In a recent LinkedIn post Ritzya Mitchell, The “Drama” queen at http://www.thedramacoach.com/index2.html asked:
When giving a Presentation, what is the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience?
Here is my response:
I believe the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience is focusing on you rather than the audience.
Focusing on what you are going to say, and how you are going to say it, and how you are going to look as a result of saying it, rather than what impact your message will have on your audience.
When I stopped worrying about me and started focusing on my audience, I found that I could relax more and then really connect with my audience.
The next biggest obstacle is not making enough meaningful eye contact with your audience members. And by meaningful eye contact, I am talking about looking at and talking directly to one audience member for a sentence or two and then moving on to another audience member. Not the quick side to side scan (that makes your head look like a typewriter) or the looking over people’s heads.
Look people in the eye and care about how your gift (message) is going to impact them and you will have no trouble connecting with your audience.
I hope this helps.
Making a difference,
Richard Elmes CSP
The Sales Dating Guy
In a previous post I talked about the benefits of having people in your life that can help your career. I called them your pit crew.
Today I will share with you some secrets on how to get people to help you.
1. Take Inventory: You have some people in your pit crew already. Make a list of the different people that may be able to help you. Divide these people into three categories. Core friends, Inner circle and network.
- Core Friends: These are your best friends. The people that you can be completely open and honest with and trust that they will still stick with you. They have seen your flaws and still like you anyway. You can tell them anything and not feel that it will go any further.
- Inner Circle: These are friends that you can moderately relax with. They usually know about a part of your life, but they may not know the whole story. They only know what you are willing to show them. You enjoy each others company.
- Network: These are people that you know and they know you. You enjoy each other when you are together, but you only know one part of each others life. You may know them in a certain situation , such as work.
When you are looking for help, you want to look first at your core friends, then your Inner Circle and then your network. The reason you do it in this order is because the closer they are to you, the more you trust them, and trust that they want to help you.
2. Exploration: Ask, “Who has the skills and talents that would help me the most?”, “Who has done what I want to do before?” and “Who would benefit from helping me achieve my vision?” (What’s in it for them?)
3. Approach: Then approach the people that you believe can help you and ask how you can help them.
“The key to networking success is not to ask what your network can do for you, but instead ask what you can do for your network.” – Richard Elmes
If you add value to them in their journey, then they will in-turn want to help you in yours. This is called the law of reciprocity. I have personally used this approach many times in order to connect with some fantastic (and helpful) people.
So, now that you know my secret way of building my pitcrew, the question is what are you going to do with it? Are you going to say to yourself, “That was interesting” and then forget it or are you going to grab some paper and start with step 1, Taking an inventory.
After reading this send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know how this strategy has help you in your career.