Risk vs Reward

It felt like my heart was going to beat out of my chest as I grasped the magnitude of what I was about to do.

My knees shook so bad that it was actually a relief when I went down on one knee.

And my voice trembled and I barely got out the words of the most important speech of my life.

Fear is a very powerful emotion that can sometimes prevent us from being harmed. But it can also prevent us from achieving great things.

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“There are those who SEE an opportunity. And then there are those who SEIZE an opportunity.” – Joanie Warren

Thankfully, that night 25 years ago,  I was able to recognize that the reward of enjoying my life with the woman of my dreams was worth the risk of possibly being rejected. That risk-reward analysis allowed me to seized the opportunity to ask her to marry me.

And what did she say?

After a huge hug and many tears (of joy) she was finally able to get out the word, “YES”.

And 25 years later, I can happily report that that decision was definitely worth it!

So next time you have to make a key decision, do a Risk-Reward analysis and if you decide that it is worth the risk, push through the fear, seize that opportunity and enjoy the reward.

*This post is dedicated to my beautiful wife April, and to Patricia and Dave Heather who have been two of the best role models we could have who are also celebrating their 51st wedding anniversary today.*

Motivational Quote: Sacrifice

This quote is dedicated to all those who have sacrificed so that we can have the freedoms we enjoy. Thank You

“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal.” – Albert Pike

How to handle getting emotional at Weddings

Kleenex, we need Kleenex!

That was the scene at my niece Katie and her husband Chris’ wedding this past Saturday.

That is a scene that is played out at many weddings throughout the year.

When a member of the wedding party is telling the happy couple how much their love inspires them.

When a parent is telling their child how much they are proud of them.

When a father is welcoming his new son or daughter-in- law into the family.

The scene is one charged with emotions.

So what do you do when the tears well up inside and you find yourself grabbing for a tissue?

1. First off you need to realize that this is normal. Don’t be embarrassed by this release of emotions.

2. Take a step back and breathe. Taking this moment to collect yourself will help you regain the control you need to move on. Also a deep breath will help get more oxygen to your brain, which will in turn help you think more clearly.

3. Go back an pick up from where you left off. Remember that this heart-felt message that you are delivering is important and that your recipient (along with the audience) will appreciate it.

So, don’t be embarrassed, step back and collect yourself and continue and you will touch the heart and connect with your audience, whether that audience is a hundred or just that one person. You will both be glad you did.

Also, if you are nervous about public speaking like almost everyone on the planet. Try to approach your speech like you are just talking one-on-one with that person.

Valuing the “Golden Moments” in our life

You could tell that she was fighting back the tears.

No, they were not tears of sadness.

No, they were not tears of shame.

But instead they were tears of joy and tears of relief.

Years of training, years of practice and years of competitions led to this moment.

This was her moment to shine.

This was the moment that Shawn Johnson, http://results.beijing2008.cn/WRM/ENG/BIO/Athlete/5/221035.shtml the 16 yr. old gymnast from the United States of America had dreamed about for years.

This was the moment when Shawn Johnson, the Olympic Gold Medalist in the (2008 Beijing Summer Olympics) Women’s Gymnastics Beam Event heard her national anthem being played because of her accomplishment. http://gymnastics.teamusa.org/news/article/5749

Can you imagine what it would be like, if that was you?

Can you imagine how proud you would be?

Proud of the effort, proud of the accomplishment and proud of the commitment that you put into having this experience. 

I can only imagine how much I would value the experience.

“We place value on things in the same proportion as it took to acquire it.” -Richard Elmes

And I am sure that Shawn will cherish that moment for the rest of her life.

This makes me think about whether I cherish the “Golden Moments” in my life.

The “Golden Moment” when I make the big sale, the “Golden Moment” when I make the big presentation or the “Golden Moment” where I can influence others in a leadership role.

Do you cherish those “Golden Moments” in your life?

Not only when we achieve success at work, but when we achieve a success with our spouse or kids.

I think this is a lesson that most people tend to fall short of. So next time you experience a “Golden Moment” remember all the hard work that it took to get to that point. And then be like Shawn Johnson and be proud of your accomplishment. Because you deserve it.