Motivational Quote: The Effect of Negative Words

“Harsh words can be like nuclear bombs to relationships” – Royal Hamel, http://www.lightthedarkness.org/

Just as harsh words can destroy, kind words can energize relationships more than you can ever expect.

So choose your words wisely.

Motivational Quote: Handling life’s challenges

“I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.” – Mother Theresa

Fred’s Fearful Encounter…continues

Here is part 2 of the story about Fred’s Fearful Encounter. To check out the beginning of the story click here: https://relmes.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=374

But it wasn’t until his owner carried him into the lobby of their new apartment building that the real trouble started.

You see, the walls on the lobby were covered with mirrors, and Fred being a naive little cat, who had very little exposure to other cats, and who was also used to being the king of his household, looked into the mirrored walls, saw another cat.

Well immediately his instincts took over, and he went into attack mode.

He dug his claws into his owner, who felt the searing pain and who dropped him and then Fred proceeded to attack the first cat he saw, who to his surprise was attacking him back with equal show of force.

Well Fred, who was not experienced in the art of cat fighting, decided that retreat would be his best course of action.

But when he turned to run what do you think he saw? You guessed it another attacking cat. Well this went back and forth, back and forth for several minutes until Fred decided to run down the hall and let his owner catch him up and help him out of the situation…

Now you may think that this is just a story about a crazy cat, but it more than just that.

Poor Fred is not that much different than you or me……….

To find out why he is not much different, check out my next post…

Fred’s Fearful Encounter

Sometimes things don’t appear as they really are…..

A friend of mine recently moved, into a new apartment, after living in the same house for 18 years. If you have ever moved can empathise with me when I say that, this can be a pretty traumatic experience for anyone, but it was especially traumatic for, her companion, an 8 year old little sandy brown coloured house cat, named “Fred”.

You see Fred grew up in that house, in fact it was the only home he ever knew. So you couldn’t really call him a “worldly” cat.

And you couldn’t blame Fred when he became a little concerned when he noticed all of his family’s things were slowly disappearing and being replaced by boxes. Now Fred got even more concerned, when they carried him into the car for a drive, because that usually meant a trip to the vet.

But it wasn’t until his owner carried him into the lobby of their new apartment building that the real trouble started.

Check out the next post to find out what trouble…

The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands – Habit #12: Cherish Every Moment

Effective husbands cherish every moment of their marriage.

Not just the good times (that’s the easy part), but the challenging times as well.

And I know that it won’t seem like it at the time, but those challenging times are really a gift.

They’re a gift because those times are what will mold you into the best husband you can be. Those times are what will move you closer as a couple. And those times are what will provide the wisdom that you can then pass down to future generations.

And how do you get through those rough times?

You laugh!!! You play!!! You hold on!!!

And before you know it, life will be better than ever.

You know that you have picked a wonderful girl. And if you use these strategies that I shared with you in this series of blog posts, she will know that you are a wonderful and effective husband.

So, on that note I believe it is fitting to end this blog series on The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands with a toast.

To Love, to laughter and a happy ever after.

Also, if you have read one or all twelve of these tips and found them useful, and know of anyone else who might enjoy this series of blog posts,  feel free to send them an email with a link to this blog. That way they can also benefit from this information.

Motivational Quote: Unexpected Opportunities

“It’s in our brokenness that our greatest opportunities are reveiled.” – Dan Allender, Author – Bold Love http://thepathlesschosen.com/

The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands: Habit #3: Think WE before ME

To explain theis point I need to talk about another one of my great loves… hockey.

I remember one particular game when a powerful Jr. A team from a neighbouring city http://www.kitchenerrangers.com  was losing to our city’s young inexperienced team. http://www.guelphstorm.com

Then, with the game still in reach, their new star player (Steve Downie http://lightning.nhl.com/team/app?page=PlayerDetail&playerId=8471703&service=page) jumped one of our players (Mike MacLean http://www.hockeydb.com/ihdb/stats/pdisplay.php?pid=76851)from behind for what seemed like no reason at all, knocking him to the ground, and beat the tar out of him. To make matters worse, after being pulled off by the refs, he proceeded to kick his helmet against the boards, knock over a rack of hockey sticks, and toss a case of water bottles onto the ice. (Check out the whole thing on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQ4RkHbMeqk&feature=PlayList&p=ECEEA090F95A695E&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50) Not only did he embarass himself, but he left his team short-handed. Our team went on to win 5-0.

It has been said that selfishness is the root of all evil.

Well, Mr. Downie, received an 8-game suspension for his selfish act that night. And isn’t it interesting that while he was suspended his team started winning again.

In short, when players focus on themselves, they lose. But when they focus on the team, they win.

The same lesson applies in marriage.  I know when I make major decisions focusing only on me, I get in trouble. But when I focus on the two of us, on WE, things work out better.

Because great teams are just that… teams.

So if you want to win remember Habit #3 and Think WE before Me.

Check back next time to learn what Habit #4 is.