The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands – Habit #12: Cherish Every Moment

Effective husbands cherish every moment of their marriage.

Not just the good times (that’s the easy part), but the challenging times as well.

And I know that it won’t seem like it at the time, but those challenging times are really a gift.

They’re a gift because those times are what will mold you into the best husband you can be. Those times are what will move you closer as a couple. And those times are what will provide the wisdom that you can then pass down to future generations.

And how do you get through those rough times?

You laugh!!! You play!!! You hold on!!!

And before you know it, life will be better than ever.

You know that you have picked a wonderful girl. And if you use these strategies that I shared with you in this series of blog posts, she will know that you are a wonderful and effective husband.

So, on that note I believe it is fitting to end this blog series on The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands with a toast.

To Love, to laughter and a happy ever after.

Also, if you have read one or all twelve of these tips and found them useful, and know of anyone else who might enjoy this series of blog posts,  feel free to send them an email with a link to this blog. That way they can also benefit from this information.

The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands: Habit #3: Think WE before ME

To explain theis point I need to talk about another one of my great loves… hockey.

I remember one particular game when a powerful Jr. A team from a neighbouring city http://www.kitchenerrangers.com  was losing to our city’s young inexperienced team. http://www.guelphstorm.com

Then, with the game still in reach, their new star player (Steve Downie http://lightning.nhl.com/team/app?page=PlayerDetail&playerId=8471703&service=page) jumped one of our players (Mike MacLean http://www.hockeydb.com/ihdb/stats/pdisplay.php?pid=76851)from behind for what seemed like no reason at all, knocking him to the ground, and beat the tar out of him. To make matters worse, after being pulled off by the refs, he proceeded to kick his helmet against the boards, knock over a rack of hockey sticks, and toss a case of water bottles onto the ice. (Check out the whole thing on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQ4RkHbMeqk&feature=PlayList&p=ECEEA090F95A695E&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50) Not only did he embarass himself, but he left his team short-handed. Our team went on to win 5-0.

It has been said that selfishness is the root of all evil.

Well, Mr. Downie, received an 8-game suspension for his selfish act that night. And isn’t it interesting that while he was suspended his team started winning again.

In short, when players focus on themselves, they lose. But when they focus on the team, they win.

The same lesson applies in marriage.  I know when I make major decisions focusing only on me, I get in trouble. But when I focus on the two of us, on WE, things work out better.

Because great teams are just that… teams.

So if you want to win remember Habit #3 and Think WE before Me.

Check back next time to learn what Habit #4 is.

How to handle getting emotional at Weddings

Kleenex, we need Kleenex!

That was the scene at my niece Katie and her husband Chris’ wedding this past Saturday.

That is a scene that is played out at many weddings throughout the year.

When a member of the wedding party is telling the happy couple how much their love inspires them.

When a parent is telling their child how much they are proud of them.

When a father is welcoming his new son or daughter-in- law into the family.

The scene is one charged with emotions.

So what do you do when the tears well up inside and you find yourself grabbing for a tissue?

1. First off you need to realize that this is normal. Don’t be embarrassed by this release of emotions.

2. Take a step back and breathe. Taking this moment to collect yourself will help you regain the control you need to move on. Also a deep breath will help get more oxygen to your brain, which will in turn help you think more clearly.

3. Go back an pick up from where you left off. Remember that this heart-felt message that you are delivering is important and that your recipient (along with the audience) will appreciate it.

So, don’t be embarrassed, step back and collect yourself and continue and you will touch the heart and connect with your audience, whether that audience is a hundred or just that one person. You will both be glad you did.

Also, if you are nervous about public speaking like almost everyone on the planet. Try to approach your speech like you are just talking one-on-one with that person.