It felt like my heart was going to beat out of my chest as I grasped the magnitude of what I was about to do.
My knees shook so bad that it was actually a relief when I went down on one knee.
And my voice trembled and I barely got out the words of the most important speech of my life.
Fear is a very powerful emotion that can sometimes prevent us from being harmed. But it can also prevent us from achieving great things.
“There are those who SEE an opportunity. And then there are those who SEIZE an opportunity.” – Joanie Warren
Thankfully, that night 25 years ago, I was able to recognize that the reward of enjoying my life with the woman of my dreams was worth the risk of possibly being rejected. That risk-reward analysis allowed me to seized the opportunity to ask her to marry me.
And what did she say?
After a huge hug and many tears (of joy) she was finally able to get out the word, “YES”.
And 25 years later, I can happily report that that decision was definitely worth it!
So next time you have to make a key decision, do a Risk-Reward analysis and if you decide that it is worth the risk, push through the fear, seize that opportunity and enjoy the reward.
*This post is dedicated to my beautiful wife April, and to Patricia and Dave Heather who have been two of the best role models we could have who are also celebrating their 51st wedding anniversary today.*
“I can only do what I can do. I never get frustrated with expectations from everyone else. I just know I go out there and give everything I have, and if that’s not good enough, then it’s not good enough.” – Danika Patrick, Race Car Driver (Indy Car and NASCAR) and GoDaddy.com spokesperson.
Effective husbands cherish every moment of their marriage.
Not just the good times (that’s the easy part), but the challenging times as well.
And I know that it won’t seem like it at the time, but those challenging times are really a gift.
They’re a gift because those times are what will mold you into the best husband you can be. Those times are what will move you closer as a couple. And those times are what will provide the wisdom that you can then pass down to future generations.
And how do you get through those rough times?
You laugh!!! You play!!! You hold on!!!
And before you know it, life will be better than ever.
You know that you have picked a wonderful girl. And if you use these strategies that I shared with you in this series of blog posts, she will know that you are a wonderful and effective husband.
So, on that note I believe it is fitting to end this blog series on The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands with a toast.
To Love, to laughter and a happy ever after.
Also, if you have read one or all twelve of these tips and found them useful, and know of anyone else who might enjoy this series of blog posts, feel free to send them an email with a link to this blog. That way they can also benefit from this information.
Since most couples spend countless hours preparing for their wedding, and not much time preparing for their marriage, and since most of the focus at the wedding is on the bride and not so much on the groom, I decided to create a handy guide that can help any guy become a Highly Effective husband.
My original title was “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Husbands,” but the more I kept working on it the more it took the form of a 12-step program. So I changed the title to “The 7+ Habits…”
What qualifies me to write a guide like this?
Well at the time of writing this I have been married for over 18 years to the same woman and she still likes me. (most days)
I have also spent over 12 years professionally studying relationships and how people interact with each other. And in my work as “The Sales Dating Guy”, I teach Sales Professionals how to build better relationships with their clients, using the analogy that Selling is like Dating and Customer Service is like a Marriage.
So, whether you are looking to improve your marriage or serve your customers better, enjoy this guide that I will share over the several posts, and remember the Habits as you enter the amazing journey of marriage.
Check out my next post where I will outline Habit #1.
I recently explained why I am called The Sales Dating guy in an answer to the following question on LinkedIN:
Business analogies. Do you use them?
Here is my answer:
Analogies are a great way to make complex material more digestible for your audience.
For instance, I use the analogy that Selling is like Dating and Customer Service is like Marriage in my Sales Training programs.
Using this analogy not only adds a lot of humour to the program, but it hooks the new sales concepts that I am teaching to something they already know (dating).
This increases retention of the knowledge which paves the way for a powerful (and fun) learning experience.
I would encourage you to continue to use analogies that make sense in your situation and with your audience in order to increase retention and help your audience “get” what you are communicating to them.
That explains why I use the analogy, but it doesn’t explain how I got the name “The Sales Dating Guy”.
That story includes a road trip and an enlighted experience with a powerful woman from Australia (who is not my wife) …. which I will save for a future blog.
If you want to find our more about how Sales Dating can help you and your organization increase sales, email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org or phone me @ 519-820-6207.