The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands- Habit#8: Use “The Pause” …Wisely

Before I tell you what “The Pause” is, I need to let you know a little bit about my wife. She is a type-A person who is always on the move. In fact I believe she only has two speeds… high and off.

And though she’s very smart, she sometimes doesn’t realize just how smart she truly is. And that is one of the reasons why I use, “The Pause”.

Because sometimes she’ll be upstairs, when I’m downstairs and she’ll call down to me and ask, “Rich, do you know where _________ is?”

(Pause)

“Never mind… I found it.”

Trust me… practicing this Habit will not only save you a ton of energy, but she won’t miss out on the satisfaction of finding what she was looking for herself.

But the trick is to make sure you don’t wait too long, because if she has to ask again… you’re screwed.

So remember to use Habit #8 “The Pause”… Wisely.

(Note “The Pause” is used in a different way than the Power of the Pause, that I learned at Toastmasters http://www.toastmasters.org, which will be subject for another blog post)

Check back next time when we will talk about one of the most critical, but under utilized tools that guys can use to keep their relationships (and sex lives) running smoothly.

Also, if you know of any husbands (or couples) that would benefit from reading these blogs feel free to send them the link to this blog https://relmes.wordpress.com

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The Key Component in Relationships

The key component when you are working with people, either in a leadership position, business or personal relationship is trust.

Distrust breads resistance.

Trust breads willingness.

Think of the best relationships you have and I would bet that they are solid because the level of trust between you is high.

Then think of those relationships that frustrate you. My bet would be that they are difficult, because the trust level is low to non-existant.

If you want people to work for you and not just do what they are told – work at building their trust in you.

If you want to increase your sales – work on building trusting relationships with your customers.

If you want your personal relationships to grow – work on building the trust between you and that person.

So this begs the question, how do you build trust between two people?

Visit my next post, to learn some tips that will help you do just that.

Motivational Quote: Learning

“You must learn from the mistakes of others, because you can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.” – Sam Levenson

When giving a Presentation, what is the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience?

In a recent LinkedIn post Ritzya Mitchell, The “Drama” queen at http://www.thedramacoach.com/index2.html¬†asked:

When giving a Presentation, what is the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience?

Here is my response:

 

Hi Ritzya,

I believe the biggest obstacle to connecting with your audience is focusing on you rather than the audience.

Focusing on what you are going to say, and how you are going to say it, and how you are going to look as a result of saying it, rather than what impact your message will have on your audience.

When I stopped worrying about me and started focusing on my audience, I found that I could relax more and then really connect with my audience.

The next biggest obstacle is not making enough meaningful eye contact with your audience members. And by meaningful eye contact, I am talking about looking at and talking directly to one audience member for a sentence or two and then moving on to another audience member. Not the quick side to side scan (that makes your head look like a typewriter) or the looking over people’s heads.

Look people in the eye and care about how your gift (message) is going to impact them and you will have no trouble connecting with your audience.

I hope this helps.

Making a difference,
Richard Elmes CSP
The Sales Dating Guy
www.RichardElmes.com