The 7+ Habits of Highly Effective Husbands: Habit #3: Think WE before ME

To explain theis point I need to talk about another one of my great loves… hockey.

I remember one particular game when a powerful Jr. A team from a neighbouring city http://www.kitchenerrangers.com  was losing to our city’s young inexperienced team. http://www.guelphstorm.com

Then, with the game still in reach, their new star player (Steve Downie http://lightning.nhl.com/team/app?page=PlayerDetail&playerId=8471703&service=page) jumped one of our players (Mike MacLean http://www.hockeydb.com/ihdb/stats/pdisplay.php?pid=76851)from behind for what seemed like no reason at all, knocking him to the ground, and beat the tar out of him. To make matters worse, after being pulled off by the refs, he proceeded to kick his helmet against the boards, knock over a rack of hockey sticks, and toss a case of water bottles onto the ice. (Check out the whole thing on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQ4RkHbMeqk&feature=PlayList&p=ECEEA090F95A695E&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50) Not only did he embarass himself, but he left his team short-handed. Our team went on to win 5-0.

It has been said that selfishness is the root of all evil.

Well, Mr. Downie, received an 8-game suspension for his selfish act that night. And isn’t it interesting that while he was suspended his team started winning again.

In short, when players focus on themselves, they lose. But when they focus on the team, they win.

The same lesson applies in marriage.  I know when I make major decisions focusing only on me, I get in trouble. But when I focus on the two of us, on WE, things work out better.

Because great teams are just that… teams.

So if you want to win remember Habit #3 and Think WE before Me.

Check back next time to learn what Habit #4 is.

Why you should always vote

My head hit the pillow but I still couldn’t sleep. My body was so exausted, but my mind was racing.

I had just logging 16 1/2 hours for Elections Canada, working as a Central Poll Supervisor (running 2 large polls and leading 7 others) for the Canadian Federal Election at the University of Guelph, but yet I was still juiced.

Now I am not one of those people who follow every move in politics, but I do stay abreast of most of the issues. Although I don’t endorse any one particular party, but I do love the idea that I of all people have a say in who will represent me and my riding in Parliment.

The cool thing about being stationed at the University was that many of the voters were exercising their privaledge to vote for the first time.

These students were excited to be able to have a say in how their country will move forward. 

Wouldn’t it be nice if more potential voters thought this way.

I remember a piece of advice that my Grade 7 History teacher (who was teaching us about politics) shared with us when he said,

“When every you have an opportunity to vote… vote.

Even if you don’t know what the issues are or even care about the issues at that time.

Vote anyway. (Even if you just spoil your ballat)

Because even if you don’t care about the issues then, someday you may care about some issue and you still want to have the privaledge to have your say.

Many countries around the world would love to have this privaledge. To have their voice heard. To be able to influence (even in a small way) the world they live in.

And if we don’t exercise that privaledge, we may find that one day that privaledge may be taken away from us. “

I have never forgotten that advice and I am proud to say that I have voted in every election that I have been eligable for.

And although this Canadian Election is over, there will be others (ie. United States Presidential Election and other Federal Provincial and Municipal Elections) and I hope many more young people exercise their privaledge to vote.